For Jews around the world, this is the season of reflection and forgiveness. Rosh Hashanah, the Jewish New Year, is a time to look at the ways in which we have transgressed and to apologize, personally, to anyone we may have offended or hurt. In so doing we are once again sealed in the Book of Life. Whether or not we are Jewish, I believe we could all benefit if we took a page from this book.
Lily Tomlin wisely said, “Forgiveness means giving up the hope for a better past.”
I have spent years trying to change the past. I wanted to change my family, my friends, my husband and children. If only they agreed, life would be so much easier! But it doesn’t work that way.
After years of personal growth work, I discovered that the ones we want to change are mirrors for the wounded parts of our self. We react to those who activate something unresolved inside. When we understand the root of our suffering, we can forgive and move on. This is freedom.
As a private question to consider yourself, who do you need to ask forgiveness from, and what do you need to forgive and let go of in yourself?